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I enjoy watching my children parent their children. My son is the man who, as a child, rolled his eyes each time I told him to take out the trash. Now my son endures eye-rolls from his daughter when she is given household chores. When my daughter tells her son to eat the vegetables on his plate because she “took the time and the trouble to cook them for him so he could be healthy,” I think back on all the times I gave her the same speech, and it makes me smile. When they hug their children and say, “I love you so much I just want to kiss you forever,” I know they first heard that from me.
Not long ago, my daughter called me to ask, “Why didn’t you tell me how hard it is to be a parent?” I laughed and told her she wouldn’t have believed me if I had told her.
Would either of my children have believed me when I told them that babies usually wake up in the wee hours of the morning? (Make that the wee-wee hours of the morning.) How could I have made them understand that their children will never spill anything on a dirty floor, that unbreakable toys are only good for breaking other toys, that they will spend more money on amusements for their child than they did on their education, that a child is nothing more than noise with dirt on it, that poorly raised children always display their pest manners, and that they will learn many things from their children — like how much patience it takes to be a parent?
So now I provide my children with little nuggets of truth to help them survive their own stints at parenthood. I say things like, “If you really want to get your children’s attention, just sit down and look comfortable and they will come to you immediately.” I have even imparted to my children my sure-fire way to get things accomplished: Do it yourself, hire it done, or forbid your kids to do it and stand back to watch them do it.
Seriously, both of my children are very aware that the best thing they can do for their children is to spend time with them. Car trips become song fests. Saturday mornings are spent reading library books. Supper time is spent with each one sharing what has been good about that day.
Recently, I encouraged my children, complimenting their parenting skills, telling them I wish I had had some of the same skills when I was raising them. I reminded them of Proverbs 22:6: “Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.” My son’s eyes filled with tears and he said, “That’s my prayer, Mom.” With my own tears, I told him, “It’s my prayer, too.”
I wonder, what are your prayers for your children and grandchildren?
Verna Davis, speaker and writer, maybe reached at VrdSpeaks@yahoo.com.
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Lizzy Long, Little Roy Lewis to perform at Union Christian Church in March
Lizzy Long and Little Roy Lewis are scheduled to take the stage at 7 p.m. March 28 at Union Christian Church, 5350 E. Hulman Drive.
THE JOY LADY: Don’t let the grouchiness seep in with the snow
I don’t know if you’ve noticed it or not, but people are starting to get… well… umm… how can I say it gracefully? People are starting to get grouchy. And that makes me kinda grouchy, too.
- CHURCH BRIEFS: Feb. 22, 2013
Lenten book study series set
Those who wonder what happened during the second Vatican Council can plan to attend a Lenten study series based on John W. O’Malley’s book, “What Happened at Vatican II,” scheduled for the four Thursdays in March.
National Catholic Sisters Week
Sister Editha Ben, vocation director for the Sisters of Providence, will attend the first National Catholic Sisters Week March 8-14 along with Saint Mary-of-the-Woods College student Josephine Nieto.
Joy Lady: Finding the importance of truth described in the Bible
The Bible. It’s my favorite book of all time. I read it. I study it. I teach it. I quote from it. I write about it. I sing songs about it. I love the Bible in many formats, for I use several translations and paraphrases. And I’ve even been known to borrow my husband’s Greek New Testament to check on some phrase or word from the original.
- Church briefs; Feb. 15, 2014
Ministry hosts teen suicide presentation; announces call for actors
Innovative Anointed Ministries in Terre Haute is hosting a presentation Saturday, Feb. 15, on teen suicide, and how people should not be afraid to speak out and help save lives among their peers.
“Speak Life — Show Love” begins at noon Saturday in Saints Home Church of God In Christ at 2210 N. 13th St.
Church presents ‘Love Languages’ author’s video seminar on Valentine’s weekend
Gary Chapman wrote the original edition of “The Marriage You’ve Always Wanted” in 1979.
Now a nationally known author and relationship counselor, with a radio program heard on more than 100 stations across the United States, Chapman first published the book under the title, “Toward a Growing Marriage,” 35 years ago.
- CHURCH BRIEFS: Feb. 8, 2013
THE JOY LADY: A half-crazed squirrel, Sister Bertha and secret sins
Today we’re going to discuss Sister Bertha Better Than You. She’s the dear sister who was immortalized in Ray Stevens’ “The Mississippi Squirrel Revival.”
Brenda Doreen Murphy
MARTINSVILLE, Ill. — Brenda Doreen Murphy, 66, of Martinsville, passed away at 5:55 a.m. on Thursday, Jan. 30, 2014, at her home.
THE JOY LADY: Be joyful, pray continually, give thanks for God’s glory
There’s a special framed picture in our house.
- RELIGION BRIEFS: Feb. 1, 2014
- CHURCH BRIEFS: Jan. 25, 2013
THE JOY LADY: Those good Old Testament stories teach us many lessons
I love a good story — the kind of story that makes me think about it long after I’ve heard it or read about it.
Joy Lady: Jesus’ last words give step-by-step approach to personal evangelism
We all want to have the last word, don’t we?
- Church briefs: Jan. 18, 2014
‘Winter Night of Prayer’ set for Thursday
The Sisters of Providence invite people of all faith traditions to St. Mary-of-the-Woods for “A Winter Night of Prayer” in the Church of the Immaculate Conception, from 6:30 to 9:30 p.m. Thursday.
Joy Lady: Wish we would all be a bit more child-like; don’t you?
Recently, our two oldest grandchildren spent a few days with us. When their parents came to pick them up, their daddy asked them, “What was the best thing about staying here?” Without hesitation, they both pointed to my husband and me and said, “Being with Nonnie and Papaw!” It melted our hearts.
- Church briefs: Jan. 11, 2013
Joy Lady: Want a way to keep your resolutions? Resolve to change your thinking
It should come as no surprise to my regular readers that I don’t “do” new year’s resolutions. Nope. Don’t believe in them. In fact, the entire time I’ve written this little column — going on 14 years, now — I have not once dedicated a column to any new year’s resolutions. I’ve confessed that I know any resolution or promise I make will be one I will break before the new year is even a week old. I’m just that kind of gal.
- Church briefs: Jan. 4, 2013
Joy Lady: We shouldn’t play the exchange game with God
The packages have been opened and the wrappings discarded. The toys have been played with. The electronics have had their batteries charged and their software downloaded. The cookies and candy have been passed around and eaten. The leftovers have been forgotten in the back of the refrigerator. That’s because Christmas is … well, it’s ummm … it’s over. Now it’s the season for The Great Gift Exchange.
- Church briefs: Dec. 28, 2013
Seven Sisters of Providence celebrate 70 years
This year, seven Sisters of Providence of St. Mary-of-the-Woods will celebrate 70 years in the congregation.
Joy Lady: At the top of my list of favorite things …
Here is this year’s list of a few of my favorite things.
- Church briefs: Dec. 21, 2013
Four celebrate 75, 80 years as Sisters
This year two Sisters of Providence of St. Mary-of-the-Woods will celebrate 75 years in the congregation, and two will mark 80-year anniversaries.
New Providence Associates commit to works of love, mercy, justice
Recently 21 Providence Associates pledged “to make a commitment that will honor Divine Providence and further God’s loving plans through works of love, mercy and justice in service among God’s people.” Most did so in a ceremony Nov. 9 in the Church of the Immaculate Conception at St. Mary-of-the-Woods.
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