News From Terre Haute, Indiana

May 11, 2013

THE JOY LADY: Call your mom; tell her you love her, that you miss her

Verna Davis
Special to the Tribune-Star

TERRE HAUTE — In 1914, President Woodrow Wilson signed a resolution proclaiming “the second Sunday in May to be hereafter known as ‘Mother’s Day.’” Imagine all the flowers and greeting cards that have been sold and mailed since that second Sunday in May 99 years ago. Just think about all family gatherings and special weekends that have been celebrated for 10 decades. Not to mention how many macaroni necklaces strung on colored yarn have been proudly worn by mothers everywhere since 1914.

But after the cards have been read and reread, after the flowers have wilted and turned brown, after the big meals have been cooked and cleaned up after, and after the leftovers have been packed in various lunch boxes, it may be time to let your mother know how much you really love her.

We need to love our mothers verbally. Tell her you love her. Speak to her in polite and respectful ways. Tell her why you love her. Remember to say “please” and “thank you.” Never let your tone of voice show disrespect or impatience. And don’t forget to tell her you love her.

We need to love our mothers physically. Great big bear hugs usually melt a mother’s heart. Do things around the house: take your dishes to the sink after you finish eating, pick up your clothes from the floor, and don’t leave wet towels in a pile on the bathroom floor. If you still live at home, clean your room before she asks you to! And every once in a while, let your mother sit while you do the dishes.

We need to love our mothers patiently. Remember that she is getting older, whether or not you or she wants to admit it! She may not understand technology like you want her to. As she gets older, your mother may be moving more slowly, hearing less, and her sight may be getting worse. (I know because all of these things are happening to the mother of my children!)

We can wrap it all up with Exodus 20:12: “Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you.” Ephesians 6:1-3 adds, “Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father and mother — which is the first commandment with a promise — that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.”

If your mother is still living, and if you are not able to be with her, find the nearest phone and call her. Tell her you love her, that you miss her, and that you are grateful she is your mother. If your mother is no longer living, don’t dwell on how much you miss her. Find “another mother,” — a mother who is alone, maybe separated by her children by miles and circumstances — and celebrate Mother’s Day with her.

And to all mother’s everywhere — Happy, Happy Mother’s Day. Thanks for doing what you do.

Verna Davis, speaker and writer, maybe reached at