By Mark Bennett
The Tribune-Star
TERRE HAUTE
May 30, 2009 09:17 pm
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If it weren’t for maple trees, I’d be aware of the view from the rooftop of our house.
Their seeds drop and spin like squadrons of helicopters, landing in the roof’s valleys and gutters. My counter attack consists of grabbing a pair of gloves and a lawn bag, climbing a ladder, and yanking fistfuls of seeds from the nooks of the roof. One mother of all maple trees is fine. A thousand of her offspring, sprouting in the gutters, is trouble.
One sweltering afternoon a couple summers ago, I was reacquainting myself with the shingles when my teenage son came home from a ball practice. He spotted his sweaty, dirty dad up on the roof, grinned and waved. Seconds later, I heard footsteps on the aluminum ladder. My son climbed up, stuck his hand into the mucky seeds and started clearing the gutters, right alongside me.
I breathed a deep, grateful sigh, but I wasn’t surprised. He’s always been that way — thinking of others before himself, turning work into fun, being adventurous.
On his first day of school, he climbed onto the bus with a ready grin, like he was on his way to Disney World.
Today, 12 years later, he and hundreds of other young men and women graduate from Vigo County high schools. Before, during and after those commencement ceremonies, they’ll be showered with advice for their future. They’ll hear reminders from their elders that the real world is unforgiving to slackers and underachievers … “always” do this, and “never” do that. Afterward, adults, with visions of skateboards and sagging jeans, will shake their heads and fret about tomorrow in America.
But, today, the people needing words of wisdom are the grownups. To the generations immediately preceding today’s graduates, our Thought for the Day is: Do the right thing. Why turn the focus around? Because kids learn from us, the good and the bad.
Impressively, the Class of 2009 and young America have done a lot of the right things, so far, despite some of the examples they’ve been given.
Last fall, they gave the country a civics lesson by passionately participating in the 2008 election. Previous generations talked about getting out the youth vote, but these kids actually did it. The turnout of teen and twentysomething voters (23 million) was the highest since 1972. Many of them also grew up volunteering in their communities (59 percent of 12- to 17-year-olds, compared to 49 percent of the adult population). Their generation is shouldering a substantial share of the service and sacrifices in the Iraq and Afghanistan wars. They consider their spiritual faith important. Notably, a Gallup Youth Survey indicated that teenagers’ church attendance mirrors that of their grandparents, and exceeds that of their parents.
By contrast, these young people didn’t create the current economic meltdown by living way beyond their means. They didn’t drive up the divorce rate. They didn’t ignore our growing addiction to fuel from countries that might taunt America into a war.
Those problems seem immense, right now, and today’s graduates will be warned that they’re coming of age in uncertain times. Well, yes, that’s true. But the same could be said for the Classes of 1941, 1969, 1977, 1982, and maybe just about any other. No one ever knows what tomorrow holds.
Instead, the nation should be anxious to see the Class of 2009 joining the “real world.” They’ll bring an understanding of living on less, an appreciation of their community, a sense of civic duty, and some faith. They might also raise the bar for the rest of us, as we make choices in our daily lives.
I can easily imagine seeing my son, someday, on the roof of his house, cleaning the gutters alongside his own kid, who’s been watching everything he does.
Mark Bennett can be reached at (812) 231-4377 or mark.bennett@tribstar.com.
The Tribune-Star asked readers to offer advice to high school graduates from the Class of 2009. With commencement exercises occurring this weekend in Vigo County and other parts of the Wabash Valley, we offer those readers’ perspectives below.
Flexible, positive lifestyle helps
My input to your challenge starts with a forever-old quote from my family: “Furnish your mind well, and you will always have a comfortable place to live — guaranteed, you’ll never be bored.”
This quote has a simple meaning. Each person is encouraged to pursue a wide range of interests.
One example: Exploring the absolute wonders of nature. For me (and our whole family), this lifelong interest in caring about and for the planet Earth reinforces the fact that Earth Day is Every Day. Every one of us can help.
I have two signs on my refrigerator: “Humor — never leave home without it,” and, “Be flexible and you won’t get bent out of shape.”
Include music and art as a vital part of day-to-day living. (This is right-brain stuff we need.)
Clip and share items from your local newspaper and other print sources. This provides a great connection to your community and the world. I like to collect quotes and cartoons and trivia, serious and light-hearted fun stuff to share.
Offer your help to the young and old; expect no reward.
Laugh genuinely with someone and never at someone.
Surround yourself with upbeat people. You can deal with the gloom-doomers later.
Turn negatives into positives; yes, it can be done.
Build on your political and spiritual strength. Listen and learn from discussions. You have choices on getting involved or not getting involved — oh boy, isn’t the United States of America a wonderful country?
Think about this: Chuck these words from your vocabulary — hate, worry, greed, envy, jealousy.
No matter how bad things seem to be, never feel sorry for yourself. Ever. (Oh yes, and don’t whine.)
We are the most creative society in the world, and we have many how-to-cope problems. My confidence in the young people of today is unshakable. Ideas will flow and be shared, and the results will be remarkable. I can hardly wait.
Believe in yourself; I do.
— Peggy Cobb
Terre Haute
Career may emerge unexpectedly
I started my business at home when I was 11 years old, mowing the neighbors yards in my neighborhood. I worked wherever I could, baling hay in the summer along with fast food in the winter, all through school and college. Then it was on to the real world, getting married, having kids and all the responsibilities that came along with it.
Your family says to go out get a job put your college to work. Thing is, I was going for a degree in aviation quality control back in 1993. But with the collapse of the airline industry in the ’90s, there was a glut of quality-control people out there. So what should I do with my life? I always had my lawn care business from when I was a kid. But it was always just a hobby. I have always worked for other people, which I still do! But it’s nothing like being your own boss. Who would know that my hobby has turned into a flourishing business, with five employees who have been with me forever?
But who would have ever thought what I did as a kid would mean so much to me now? Bottom line is this: Some people are meant to go to college, but some of us are not. It’s your choice! But sometimes in life, the littlest thing that happened in high school or a teacher that influenced you to do what your good at, later on in life that might be your future, and you just don’t know it yet.
I never thought my hobby would bring me so much in life.
— Chad Feller
Terre Haute
Avoid harmful situations
The year was 1954, when I addressed my small graduating class in our small school (Blackhawk High School). The advice in some cases can be the same.
From that speech: “The mills of God grind slowly, sometimes, yet the hour of reckoning always comes to every individual.” Therefore, the advice is to prepare for the end of your life before you can really live the life given to you. Remember, “life is but a vapor that soon vanishes away,” according to my Bible.
It does not matter the number of college degrees you may obtain, the jobs you may secure, the house you may live in, or the car you may drive; if you do not take care of your health, you will have nothing. Which means, you stay away from any liquor, drugs, smoking or any situation that may endanger your life or your health. That really means you should always “flee from evil.”
Please take good care of the life you have been given, and in most cases you will be considered successful.
— Carolyn Thorne
Terre Haute
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